ENJOY YOUR SOCIAL LIFE
Social life is an
important aspect of living which you enjoy with your family and friends. Social
events like parties, community activities and visiting friends are expressions
of the joy of being together and of human fellowship. With experience you
acquire some social skills which facilitate relationship, friendship and
rapport. These positive social skills can also be learned and reinforced. By
the same token, you can unlearn poor behaviour, thus avoiding inappropriate social
skills. There are very few people who would not benefit from some improvement
in their social skills and behaviour. The beauty of learning and practising
these skills is that you are rewarded with smiles, respect and friendship. You
can be as creative as you want with your social activities. Making friends,
getting involved in community activities and projects, joining a club and
playing sports are all social activities you can enjoy and choose to
participate in. All these activities require human contact and interaction with
other people. In any interaction you form part of the other person's current
learning experience and you can learn from him or her too. The more you improve
your social skills, the more effective you become in society.
To interact socially,
you have to be able to hold interesting conversations and to exchange views and
opinions on numerous current topics. It helps if you keep yourself acquainted
and up-to-date with national and international issues, with your favourite
sports and hobbies, and with popular entertainments. You don't, have to show
your in-depth knowledge at every opportunity but only to be conversant of the
topic of discussion. To develop positive social skills, you have to be
interested in a variety of things, be inclined to genuinely like people and be
generally pleasant and agreeable. You need to have an alert interest in people
and a fondness for their company. Participate in social activities, rather than
being just an inactive observer. If you have any knowledge, skill or talent
that can benefit your social circle, volunteer your services at your
convenience. It will be greatly appreciated and you will be warmly welcomed in
your social group. For instance, if you are a good soccer player, be a soccer
coach for the kids in your community. By helping others, there are more chances
that one day you will be helped by others in your time of need.
Society is open to
everyone and you are welcome to join the club. How effective a member of the
club you are depends on your attitude and your willingness to participate and
to contribute. The more you enjoy interacting with others in a social setting,
the more others will seek your company. If you are a relaxed, fun, responsible
and positive person, you will attract a lot of friends almost effortlessly. Here
are some suggestions to help you get the most out of your social life:
Have a genuine liking
for people.
Associate with
positive and confident friends.
Develop a network of
professional colleagues, associates and acquaintances.
Entertain only the
people you want to.
Have interesting and
challenging hobbies.
Get informed on
national and international news and current affairs.
Provide service to
the community.
Do volunteer work and
give assistance to the needy.
Be politically aware
and active.
Be generally
pleasant, agreeable and non-critical.
Develop some cultural
interests in the world of arts, theatre, films, books etc.
The cultivation of
genuine friendship is an art that most people pay little attention to. It does
not happen by accident. You start by looking for people with common interests
who share the same basic values. Friendship has a chance to develop when you
interact with these people. Instinctively, you appreciate and enjoy the company
of some people more than others. You tend to admire some of their qualities.
The main ingredients of these relationships are mutual feelings of rapport,
respect, understanding and trust. By nurturing the friendship, you start to
have a sense of each other's beliefs, needs and aspirations. As your rapport
and bond develops, you are able to fill some of each other's needs. Although
friends can ask each other favours from time to time, you should be very
careful not to take advantage of your friendship by being a burden to your
friends. Rather than imposing on them, enjoy your precious time together with
your friends, letting the social interaction rejuvenate you. Lifelong
friendship exists when you encourage and support each other's fulfillment in
any way you can and when you feel free to express your feelings openly to each
other. In your times of need, your friends will be there supporting you and in
your times of joy they will be there rejoicing with you. They don't envy your
success, they are happy for your achievements. All they wish for you is that you
continue to be yourself, to grow and develop. They enrich the quality of your
social life by participating in stimulating activities with you and vice versa.
It is not how many people you know that counts, it is how many people you can
genuinely call lifetime friends that is really important.
Excerpt from my book: Become your best.
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